We as children of God should begin to change the way we look at people, especially when it comes to love. I notice so many people who are only concerned about one thing, looks. We get so wrapped up in the outward appearance we forget appreciating a person’s true beauty is seeing the spirit inside of them. I see so many brothers and sisters concerned only with the physical qualities of a potential mate. One cannot count how many great individuals are overlooked because they do not fit the mold of worldly standards of beauty.
What happens when our decisions on choosing partners are governed only by what the eye sees?-We miss out. We miss out on amazing Godly relationships. We miss out on walking through life with people who understand that a partnership is much more than physical attraction, but it is a joint mission.
When it comes to finding a future spouse we must understand that God looks at things differently than we do. Ladies you may be looking to see if he is tall, dark, and handsome. All the while God is looking to see if he is strong, courageous, and faithful. Guys you may be looking to see if she is curvaceous and appealing physically, but God is looking to see if she is kind.
We see this in 1 Samuel 16:7; God commands Samuel to find the new king of Israel. As Samuel embarks on this journey, it is apparent he has preconceived notions about what it means to be a king. As Samuel makes great efforts to find a king, his path crosses with a man names Eliab. Eliab is the personification of strength. “Surely this is the Lord’s anointed,” says Samuel upon seeing this vision of a supposed king. But to Samuel’s surprise, God is not in agreement. The Lord says to him, “Samuel do not look at his appearance or height because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart.”
Turns out we are not so different from Samuel. Samuel was in search of the new king of Israel just as many of us are in search of the kings and queens of our hearts. And just like Samuel we often overlook what is truly important. The heart. Many of us may have found someone who we think is perfect but just as God spoke to Samuel and said “I have rejected him,” God may speak to us and say “not him” or “not her.” God does this because he loves us and wants the absolute best for us in all aspects of our lives.
I am sure Eliab would have made a perfectly acceptable king had he been chosen. But instead God lead Samuel to choose another. And later in the story we see God speak to Samuel saying, “this is the one, anoint him.” And the man God chose was named David, but you may know him as King David.
God will always choose the best for us, but we must be willing to trust him we he says no and have the faith to follow him when he says go.
Blessing and Love,